You Can't Forgive Yourself

Dr. Stephen Phinney

Let's face it, forgiving yourself is like spitting in the wind. However, appropriating the forgiveness of Christ is another story.


The past week, I received an email from a one-way friend in Kenya titled REMEMBER ME. While this is not a sin in and of itself, after years of emails filled with appeals to "help me" in times of need, and a plethora of replies of helping him with a Christ-as-Life perspective, his replies remained me-centered. After many years of sending him pearls of the Gospel, I was left with some words Jesus spoke:

"Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. (Matthew 7:6)


Have you ever had it that when you finally front the real issue in someone's life, they ultimately turn on you for speaking the Truth?


Christianity today is as selfish as a two-year-old pitching a fit over being denied a piece of candy. When the lion's share of "believers" are denied getting what they want, they often become irrationally angry and act out by demanding that God changes His sovereign plan to sedate their uncomfortable lives.

As with the case of children, to avoid the unpleasant environment a child can create by NOT getting their way, many parents give in to the child's whims and demands. In the meantime, the child's selfishness is never addressed. The child goes through life knowing that if they create an uncomfortable life for their parents, they can rule the world around them through fussing, screaming,