Loneliness Has Benefits

Updated: Sep 8, 2021

Dr. Stephen Phinney


Loneliness tends to be the greatest ‘curse’ known to humanity. People tend to fill this dark place with an endless list of psychobabble ideations.


Loneliness is the state of distress or discomfort that results from perceiving a gap between one’s desires to be connected to the ones we love and actually experiencing the joy of connecting. Though our need to connect is innate, built into us through God’s creative expression, many of us frequently feel alone. In most cases, lonely people often experience this ideation when surrounded by others throughout the day. They seem to be overwhelmed by this feeling even when others are loving on them. They maintain deep and pervasive loneliness even when reality says they are not alone. Research suggests that loneliness is at the base of long-term physical health.



Did you know that leaders are at the top of the list of the most lonely people?


I have studied the life of every President of the United States – in detail. One of the most common warnings from one President to the other is, “The White House is the loneliest place on earth.” Furthermore, many of those Presidents died toward the end of their term of office or died shortly afterward. In fact, loneliness is the leading cause of death to humanity.


Why is it that friends and family surround a lonely person and still suffer this horrid reality? The answer is obvious; the masses miss the innate design of humanity.


Whether a person lives in isolation or not, feeling a lack of connection to the One who created them can be painful and can often result in death. Loneliness can be described in different ways; a commonly used measure of loneliness, our research concludes, the individual has deficits of connecting to the Holy that created them:


  • Feeling a lack of connection between humanity & their creator.

  • Feeling a disconnect between themselves & the supposed reality of Christ living within them throu